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- “Body Language and Interviews”

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People in the corporate world will unsurprisingly be inclined to accept innate forms of manners or conduct that are defensive instead of being frank, direct, and mutual.

No wonder why sentiments are considered tough influences in the office and why the employer would normally act in response to condemnation or disapprovals.

Most of these behaviors are readily recognized by other people. These include established ability to communicate completely and confidently, the ability to learn from errors and fiascos, and the fast and kind acknowledgment of the other colleagues.

However, not all forms of communication can easily be recognized and comprehended. Other forms of communication need certain levels of acceptance and assessment, as well as detailed comprehension, in order to learn the real message behind them.

These neglected forms of communication can affect people’s social manner and career/future.

Why? Simply because some people use non-verbal forms of communication or the so-called body language to detect and assess the behavior of another individual. They use body language as the core, underlying factor in determining people’s personality and total well-being.

Body language is a non-verbal form of communication. This involves communicating feelings/ideas through gestures or body movements rather than using words or other types of communication.

With the depth and individuality of every form of body language, corporate people have learned to consider these other forms of communication as one way of assessing people, especially when applying for a job.

In this way, they can silently evaluate the applicants and decipher whatever they are trying to say through their actions/gestures.

Since body language can be either voluntary or involuntary, their meanings may vary. However, in the social context, psychologists and sociologists have learned to decipher the meaning of each body language, thereby enabling some people to understand the message being sent by the other person.

For this reason, experts say that people should be aware of their gestures or hand/eye movements, as these will put a great impact on their personality whenever they face other people especially during an interview.

They should remember that in the interviews, employers are very meticulous on the way applicants react to the situation, on the way they answer the challenging questions, and on how they project themselves. In this way, employers can assess if such applicants can handle the job better than the others.

Facial Expression

Facial expressions can suggest or express an individual’s emotions or feelings.

In essence, facial expressions are controlled forms of body language. However, since it involves feelings or sentiments, most often than not, they are spontaneous and instinctive.

Then again, during the interview, it is best to control most of the facial expressions and express a pleasant one instead. Interviewers or employers would like to see individuals who are eager to get the job and who can have a pleasant personality up front.

It can only convey the applicants’ confidence with themselves. Insecure or unconfident persons would most likely be fidgety; and even if they will not say so, their actions speak louder.

Eye Contact

Eye contacts can also be a strong form of conveying emotions or feelings towards another person. In fact, experts say that eye contact can have a great impact on social manners. It can directly express one’s confidence and personality.

During the interview, it is best to maintain a nice level of eye contact with the interviewer. This will bring out the confidence in a person.

It can also build trust. Through eye contacts, interviewers can easily evaluate if the applicants are sure of themselves or if they are telling the truth.

Once the trust is built, it would be easy for the applicants to manipulate the conversation and eventually get the job.

Avoiding the other person’s eye contact will send signals that may end one’s future career. It could mean that the other person is guilty of something or is trying to avoid the truth.

Gestures

Gestures can also have a large influence on the interview. Body language and gestures can create a great effect on the observer.

In most interviews, employers watch how the applicants react to certain situation through their facial expressions or “body and facial gestures.”

For instance, if an applicant did not like the idea stated by the interviewer, the simple rolling of the eyes could indicate a negative effect. This simple gesture could mean frustration, annoyance, or arrogance.

All of these things are important during the interview. It is best to be aware of them to avoid negative results.

The very basis of body language as used in an interview is to convey confidence. Even though the applicants may not be 100% sure of themselves, it is imperative that they should appear as if they are.

The way applicants positively express themselves through body language can build their entire future. As they say, actions speak louder than words.

“Does A Law On Human Attraction Exist?”

“Opposites attract.” This is as far as electromagnetism is concerned. How about in human relationships, is there such a law of attraction? Is attraction a matter of chemistry?

In the animal kingdom, the attraction between animals of the opposite sex is all about chemicals called pheromones. The effect of pheromones in behavior of insects is the most studied to date. In some experiments involving ant colonies, pheromones are responsible for communication among same species.

Some species of apes rub pheromone-containing urine on the feet of potential mates to attract them. Some scientists believe that female insects and mammals send chemical signals that help their mates distinguish species.

The perfume industry has capitalized on pheromones as a means to increase one’s sexual attractiveness to the opposite sex. People hunt animals, such as the whale and the musk deer, for these chemicals.

Lately, scientists are looking into the existence of human pheromones and its role in mate selection. There are many conflicting views in the realms of biology, chemistry, genetics, and psychology. Most scientists would assert that these chemicals do not exist, or if these indeed exist, these chemicals do not play a role in sexual attraction between a man and a woman.

However, Swiss researchers from the University of Bern, led by Klaus Wedekind, are making scientists rethink their stand. The experiment involved women sniffing cotton shirts of different men during their ovulation period.

The study showed that women prefer the smell of shirts of men who shared similarities with the women’s genes. Like the case of insects and other mammals, this was to ensure healthier characteristics for their future children.

The said researchers cautioned that preference for male odor is also affected by women’s ovulation period, the food that men eat, perfumes and other scented body products, and the use of contraceptive pills.

Does personality figure in sexual attraction?

According to a research conducted by Klohnen, E.C., & S. Luo in 2003, a person’s sense of self-security and the person’s perception of his/her partner were strong determinants of attraction in hypothetical situations.

What does this tell you? You may have preference with regard to personality types and this explains your attraction to a particular person. However, the actual personality of the person can only be verified through close interaction through time. In this case, it is your perception of your potential partner’s personality that attracts you to him/her.

So, how does attraction figure in relationships?

You have probably heard that attraction is just a prelude. Attraction alone cannot make a relationship work. Attraction makes you notice a person from the opposite sex, but once you get to know the person more, attraction is just one consideration. Shared values, dreams, and passions become more significant in establishing long-term relationships.

If this is the case, should you stop trying to become attractive?

More than trying to become physically attractive, you should work on all aspects of your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. Physical attraction is a precursor. Biology predisposes you to choose the partner with the healthiest genes.

Just ask yourself, “Would you want to spend time with a person who feels insecure about him/herself?” Probably not! There is wisdom in knowing yourself.

Never pretend to be someone you are not. Fooling another person by making him/her think that you share the same values and beliefs is only going to cause disappointments.

As mentioned in the Klohnen and Luo’s research, a person’s sense of self-security matters more than just physical attractiveness. Just be yourself!

“6 Key Social Skills”

Great social skills help you meet interesting people, get that job you want, progress further in your career and relationships. Happily, like any skill, social strategies and techniques can be learned…

The main social skills are as follows:

1) The ability to remain relaxed, or at a tolerable level of anxiety while in social situations

Regardless of how skillful you are in social situations, if you are too anxious, your brain is functioning in way unsuited to speaking and listening. In addition, if your body and face give the unconscious message that you are nervous, it will be more difficult to build rapport with others.

2) Listening skills, including letting others know you are listening

When you had dinner with Gladstone, you were left feeling that he was the most charming person you had ever met. But after dinner with Disraeli, you felt that you were the wittiest, the most intelligent, the most charming person.Dr Warren Bennis PhD, University of California

There is little more attractive and seductive than being truly listened to. Good listening skills include:

• Making 'I'm listening' noises - 'Uh-huh', 'really?', 'oh yes?' etc.
• Feeding back what you've heard - "So he went to the dentist? What happened?"
• Referring back to others' comments later on - "You know how you were saying earlier…"
• Physical stillness, eye contact and attentiveness while the other person is talking.

3) Empathy with and interest in others' situations

A major part of social anxiety is self consciousness, which is greatly alleviated by focusing strongly on someone else. A fascination (even if forced at first) with another's conversation not only increases your comfort levels, it makes them feel interesting.

4) The ability to build rapport, whether natural or learned

Rapport is a state of understanding or connection that occurs in a good social interaction. It says basically "I am like you, we understand each other". Rapport occurs on an unconscious level, and when it happens, the language, speech patterns, body movement and posture and other aspects of communication can synchronise down to incredibly fine levels.

Rapport is an unconscious process, but it can be encouraged by conscious efforts.

• Body posture 'mirroring', or movement 'matching'
• Reflecting back language and speech, including rate, volume, tone, and words
• Feeding back what you have heard, as in 2) above

5) Knowing how, when and how much to talk about yourself - 'self disclosure'

Talking about yourself too much and too early can be a major turn-off for the other party in conversation. Good initial small-talk is often characterised by discussion of subjects not personal to either party, or by an exchanging of personal views in a balanced way.

However, as conversations and relationships progress, disclosing personal facts (small, non-emotional ones first!) leads to a feeling of getting to know each other.

6) Appropriate eye contact

If you don't look at someone when you are talking or listening to them, they will get the idea that:

• You are ignoring them
• You are untrustworthy
• You don't like the look of them (!)

This doesn't mean you have to stare at them. In fact, staring at someone while talking to them can give them the feeling you are angry with them. Keeping your eyes on them while you are listening, of course, is only polite.

Of course these are not hard-and-fast rules, eye contact for instance, varies between cultures, but in general, practicing these will improve your social skills if you find social situations difficult.

Article by Roger Elliott, author of the Free Self Confidence Course. Click here to subscribe to the free self confidence course now!.

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